Do you feel like you’re constantly apologizing? Have you noticed that you tend to oscillate between apologizing and deflecting blame, resulting in the need to apologize more? I feel like everyone goes through these kinds of cycles every once in a while, it’s human nature to avoid what we haven’t been conditioned to enjoy and take the path of least resistance. Instead of only having these two options, what if we tried to rethink the whole concept of apologizing?
The way we think of ourselves is just about the only thing in this world that we can control. Paradoxically, we also tend to become our worst enemies and biggest critics which is why practicing mindfulness is so important. This is one way we can start to address and combat the negative cycle which plagues some of us and prevents us from becoming the person we want to be.
“I’m sorry I’m late.” turns into “Thank you for waiting for me.”
“I’m sorry I didn’t text back.” turns into “Thank you for always being there for me.”
“I’m sorry, I’m feel so dumb.” turns into “Thank you for patiently explaining that to me.”
“I’m sorry I keep messing up.” turns into “Thank you for loving me unconditionally.”
This activity might bring light to something you may not even realize is a negative behavior, and replace it with something that spreads positivity, appreciation and encouragement. Through this activity I hope you will find that you have more power over your emotions than you thought, no matter the situation.